Wedding Series Ep2: Pre-Engagement - The Preparation, One Thing Ayah Really Disliked


Assalamualaikum and hi everyone!

I hope you guys had a good day today. It was a great day for me, Alhamdulillah. My husband just got his permanent placement result and turned out he got the hospital that I'm planning to work at, Alhamdulillah. I'm so so so grateful. Thank you for everyone who keeps us in your prayer. Only Allah can repay your kindness :')  

Alright, we have come to the second episode weeee. I'm gonna talk about the preparation of our engagement and how ayah disliked that ONE thing I did. Totally disliked, kalau boleh tak nak pandang and rasa segan kalau orang tahu haha. I feel embarrassed as well, but I decided to post it here as a memory, gituuu. What is it? Tungguuuu. 

This post is gonna have 4 subheadings on how I prepared my engagement.

1. How did I start? Where did I start? 

The preparation started right after we'd decided on the engagement date. I did some research and from there I came up with an engagement to-do-list (will share with you guys in the next post, InshaaAllah!). Typical Ardilla semua benda nak list, dari sekolah sampai sekarang haha. Ayah and Ibu handled catering, while I settled the rest. I tried my best to save as much as I can, opting for the cheaper-but-still-nice option hehe. 

And not to forget, I also cleaned up my study room! It's called study room though I never used that room to study haha. If you read my post entitled Konmari: Don't Judge My Room, you'd definitely surprise looking at the before and after photos. Yelah, dari bilik cam tongkang pecah terus kemas sebutir habuk pun takde hehe. 


2. The only shop I went for outfit hunting (20th of August 2019)

My best friends were so supportive; Babyboos gave me a few suggestions from where I could find my outfit and I asked Tiara if she could accompany me and she immediately said yes! She even offered me to have a sleepover at her house since I came from Melaka. So segannnnn, especially with Aunty Dewi and Uncle Mazua hehe thank you Aunty and Uncle.

I already eyed a few shops and planned to buy a pastel pink baju kurung. I fetched Tiara from Putrajaya and we went to the first shop. I straight away picked up the clothes that I wanted and tried it. It fitted perfectly. Suddenly I saw another baju kurung with the same design but in baby blue and it looked nicer on me! Tiara sent a few photos of me to Ibu and both of them said that the blue one was nicer. 

I paid and we left. Phew, that wasn't so hard, Alhamdulillah! 

Here's a shameless selfie of me hehe 


3. Sobri bought the engagement ring in Mydin?! (15th of August 2019)

Sobri works in JB, so we only met once before the engagement, which was 4 days after The Awkward Meeting haha. It was in the afternoon when he reached Melaka. Semangat tak tahu kenapa, I already surveyed a few halls and we went to this one hall, where Elfira Loy's wedding took place to have a look. By the time we left, it was already 6pm. 

We didn't have much time so I told Sobri let's find my ring in Mydin. He was surprised. He forgot that Mydin Melaka bukan biasa biasa haha kidding. One of Habib Jewel branches is in Mydin and there were a few other jewellery shops as well. 

Sobri preferred me wearing a gold ring, but white gold captivated my heart. I told him that I would wear a gold ring during nikah, so he bought me the white gold. Yeay win-win hehe. Win-win apanya, Sobri yang belikan padahal -.-



4. Hantaran preparation and decoration 

I volunteered to settle all components other than catering. Thinking of saving more money, I decided to decorate the hantaran from scratch by myself. Sobri and I came to a conclusion to have hantaran of 7 berbalas 5, which means I will have to prepare 7 hantaran for Sobri. 

Ayah disliked this ONE hantaran that I decorated, sampai yang hantaran lain before this ayah suka pun terus ada je yang macam tak kena haha. It was not my fault. I'd tried my best *buat muka kesian*. But to be honest, looking back at that ONE hantaran I decorated, I felt embarrassed as well. Luckily Sobri and his family accepted as it was hehe. 

Beriya okay I prepare hantaran for Sobri. Habis sepah ruang tamu kat office ayah haha. 


Gonna show you guys something really embarrassing. Okay amaran, jangan gelak! Hahaha. I did try my best okay. I really did. And here comes the ONE that ayah disliked the MOST. Taraaaaa!


Hahahaha. Yes it was ugly. I don't know what did I think at that time. Maybe I thought it was cool to tabur tabur all the chocolates inside the dulang to make it looked A LOT. Yes, it looked a lot.. hmmm A LOT messy haha. 

One thing for sure, ayah told me to never decorate any hantaran and will make sure I hire someone who's really creative next time. Creative as in memang disahkan kreatif tanpa perlu tabur coklat haha. 


In my next post, I'll share with you guys my engagement-to-do list and probably some tips here and there so see you guys there! 


P/s: Have any of you guys ever decorated hantaran before? 
Any idea on how to decorate mini chocolates like that? 


Previous Wedding Series: 



Wedding Series Ep1: Pre-Engagement - How Did He Propose To Me?



Assalamualaikum and hi guys! 

I'm sooooo excited for this wedding series. I've been planning to write this series for quite some time and I finally have the motivation to start writing it! This series is gonna consist of a few posts, probably 5 or 6, depending on how much I wanna talk about. Or maybe lebih if tetiba banyak benda nak cakap hehe. 

Anyway stay tune with this series. I'll upload my wedding video by the end of this series and along the way I'll include some tips and hacks, InshaaAllah! 


The Proposal (9th of August 2019)
On the 9th of August, I passed my final examination and officially became a doctor (Post: Finally, a doctor). Sobri dropped some hints that he wanted to get engaged in a month time, and I secretly wished he'd propose to me the way how people advertise a romantic proposal should be; the guy asks the girl out for dinner, the guy kneels on the ground, pulls out a ring, and asks her to marry him.

Scrap that off. I know, mengarut haha. 

Sobri proposed to me via my parents. No lovey dovey, 'Will you marry me?' or 'Will you become my wife?', etc. He asked permission from Ibu to meet and discuss our engagement with both Ibu and Ayah at my house. I'm touched to be honest. It was a better way of a proposal and 10 points for braveness. *claps* 

Ibu and ayah agreed since I already completed my degree. Kalau cakap before habis study ni mesti confirm tak boleh haha. 


The Meeting (11th of August 2019)
Sobri came all the way from Kajang that afternoon. We welcomed him and the four of us sat in the living room. Ibu cooked sambal bali and nasi impit for him, and that was his first time tasting sambal bali. Second time was during Raya (Post: 5 Unexpected Things I did During Cov-Eid). I helped to prepare the drinks and served them. 

Ayah started the conversation and Sobri told his wish of getting engaged with me. Something like, "Saya datang sini nak bincang pasal tunang." 

Oh. My. God. 

It was soooo awkward. I was there. I was literally there beside Ibu. I was stunned. Never thought it was gonna be this awkward. I wished I could run away and hide somewhere. Rasa jantung tergolek keluar okay haha. 

My parents already had the idea that he came to discuss our engagement, but I totally was not prepared for the awkwardness. Planning for the first child to get married, I bet I was not the only one who felt awkward. Ke I je yang over kot haha maybe. 

Here's a photo I curi curi took during the pre-discussion hehe. 


The discussion was short and quick. Ayah agreed and we decided to have the engagement on the 29th of September 2019. I could see ayah's eyes were watery. Not able to see someone sad, my eyes started to watery as well. Padahal entah entah mata ayah masuk habuk haha. 

How was my engagement preparation? 
It was fun and.. funny. 

There was something my father told me that I would never forget. 
I will talk more about it in my next post, so see you guys there! 


P/s: Do you have any dream proposal? Share with meee :)


Previous Wedding Series: 


5 Unexpected Things I did During COV-EID



I thought this Raya was gonna be a sad, boring one. I thought I would stay in pyjamas and just go through the day like nothing happens. But I was wrong. Although my husband and I could not travel back to our hometown in Melaka and Kajang to celebrate Raya with our family, but we still enjoyed celebrating it here in Johor. In fact, there were a few things I did that I'd never done during previous Raya. 

1. Cooked Raya dishes 

Usually a day before Raya, my family and I would gather at Nenek's house and help Nenek with cooking, cleaning the house, preparing the plates, cups, and glasses, etc. One of the main dishes, which somehow 'compulsory' to be cooked is Nenek's special dish; daging sambal bali. It's kinda different from the usual sambal bali but the taste is sooo delicious. Once you try, you'll never forget and other than rendang, sambal bali is a perfect dish to be eaten with either ketupat or nasi impit. But, it is not so easy to make since a few people attempted to cook it with the recipe given by nenek, but they failed. I was quite nervous, but Alhamdulillah I have a supportive husband, who insisted that I should make it. 

It was the last day of Ramadhan, and I managed to cook 2 Raya dishes. I'm so proud of myself hehe. 

I present to you... *drum roll* 

Daging sambal bali
Daging sambal bali

Rendang ayam 

I was a bit worried that these 2 dishes might become a failure since the next day was Raya and I really wished the four of us could eat Raya food during Raya, even though we had to celebrate far away from our family. 

Alhamdulillah, my husband, Kak Nana (my SIL) and Delisya (my niece) said both dishes were so delicious hehe. 


2. Dressed up and put on some make-up

I woke up a bit early than usual (hehe), took a bath, wore new baju kurung that I bought online and put on some makeup. It felt so different to wake up and celebrate Raya without having Ibu, Ayah, Ica and Aiman around. I missed how either Ica or Ibu would be the first to have shower, how ayah would tell us to get ready early because he hates waiting, how Aiman would ask Ibu if he could wear baju Melayu with a pair of black pants, which obviously Ibu would disagree unless he wears Kurta, etc. 

But Raya is still Raya. 

To be honest, I'm so grateful I still had the chance to celebrate it with my small family here. And it was the first Raya I celebrated with my husband yeay! 

Here's a shameless selfie of me showing the basic makeup I did. Me being me; messy eyebrows because I do not know how to draw a nice one, no falsies, no eyeliner, no contour, no highlighter, etc. Just some eyeshadow, blusher, and matte lipstick. 



3. Facetimed with my family 

A big thank you to whoever created the technology of allowing people to have a virtual reunion via mobile phone. For the past 3 months, ever since MCO was implemented, the most I could do to reduce my homesickness is to Facetime with my family. 

Ibu video-called me early in the morning while they were in the car, heading to Nenek's house and it was one of the best things that happened to me on that day. I miss them so much and knowing that they were well and fine was definitely a blessing, Alhamdulillah. I imagined myself drown in tears the moment I see them via video call but guess what. Ardilla is a big, tough girl who finally accepts the fact that she can't go back home at the moment. She didn't cry yeay! (But she did cry a bit that night though hehe). 

Sobri, Kak Nana, Delisya and I gathered in the living room and we video-called Mak, Abah, and my Kajang family weee. So grateful to see the happy faces. I was a bit sad because I was kinda excited and really wanted to know my husband's family. I already planned that Raya would be the perfect chance for me to do so, but unfortunately, I couldn't. Worry not because I know Allah's plan is always the best and InshaaAllah by the time next Raya comes, I would already know them all. 


4. Took photos at a few spots 

This is my favourite part hehe. What's Raya without photoshoot, righhhhtttt? (Say yes! Hehe). Alhamdulillah again, I am blessed with a husband, a sister-in-law and a niece who love photoshoot as much as I do! I bought a tripod from Shopee because I left mine in Melaka and early in the morning after I got ready, I set up the place for our formal Raya photo. 

Then while waiting for Kak Nana (my SIL), Delisya (my niece) helped to take photos of my husband and I. She did a great job! Reallyyyy, I'm not lying. 

Here are some photos that were taken during Raya morning; 



Yeay I received 'duit' Raya from my husband


With Delisya 

Delisya was the one who took this photo



5. Played bunga api and firecrackers 

Kak Nana bought some bunga api and firecrackers for Delisya, which we played on the night before. We had so much fun, especially Sobri haha. If you followed my Instagram (Ig: @dyllarezan), you'd probably know why. I couldn't remember the last time I played bunga api and firecrackers because usually during Raya, only the kids will play, while the 'bigger' cousins including me will help to fill in the kuih Raya and nenek's angpau, and have a chit-chat with aunties and uncles. 

Apologise for the low-quality photos because I simply screenshot them from videos because I forgot to capture one. 

Suka nya dia main mercun roket 

Both were so happy and excited 

Still moving around excitedly haha 


It would be a total lie if I said I didn't miss celebrating it with my big family, but Alhamdulillah we still had the chance to celebrate Raya together and I could not be more than grateful for that.